An open adoption allows for some form of association among the birth parents, adoptive parents and the child they adopted. This can range from picture and letter sharing to phone calls, to contact through an intermediary or open contact among the parties themselves. Many adoptions of older children and teenagers are at least partially open since the children may already know identifying or contact information about members of their birth families, or may want to stay in touch with siblings placed separately.
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Types of Adoption
Closed Adoption – A closed adoption is one where no identifying information about the birth family or the adoptive family is shared between the two, and there is no contact between the families. The adoptive family will receive non-identifying information about the child and birth family before the baby is born. After the adoption is finalized, the records are sealed. Depending on local law and what paperwork was signed and filed when the adoption was finalized, these records may or may not be available to the adopted child when they reach 18.
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For the mother
An opportunity to fulfill your lifelong goals such as college, career, and the chance to parent when the time is right for you.
The opportunity to find a home for your child that possesses everything you wish to give to them (maybe that is a two parent home, a large yard, siblings, annual vacations, private school, cultural diversity, and more.)
The knowledge that you have made it possible for a family to fulfill their dream of becoming parents. A dream that would not be possible without you.
You choose the family and get to know one another throughout the pregnancy (if that’s your choice). How much contact you have during the pregnancy is up to you, you are in charge.
An Open Adoption (if that’s your choice) and receive pictures and updates while the child is growing up.
Financial assistance. may be available. Such assistance may include help with relocation (if necessary), housing, counseling, legal and medical expenses may be available.
For the baby
Your child will have the opportunity to live in a stable, loving environment with a family who can provide both emotionally and financially for them at a time in your life when it may not be possible for you to do so.
Extended family to love and nurture your child and provide a safe and secure home.
The chance to receive a better education and other opportunities to live a happy and healthy life.
A life full of resources and chances your child may not have received otherwise.
For the adoptive family
An adoptive family will get to have their dream come true of being able to parent a child.
Some families will have the opportunity to raise a child and become parents despite issues of fertility.
The family will helping a woman with an unplanned pregnancy during a difficult time in her life and make a life-long commitment to love and cherish a baby they could not have on their own.
“Giving the baby up” – In the past, the birth mother was not in control of what happened to her or the baby. So the term “giving the baby up” was true in those days because others were making the choices for her.
“I’ll never see my child again” – In Open Adoption, the birth mother is respected and honored. The amount of contact can range from visits to joint vacations. Talk with a birth mother advocate to learn more of how this might work for you.
“My child will think I abandoned them” – Modern adoption does not isolate the child from the birth mother or the fact that the choice was made in love.
“I can only choose a married couple” – Adoptions can take place with a single parent (female or male) or with a same-sex couple. Any person or couple choosing to adopt must complete all training, background checks, and meet all requirements before they are available for selection as an adoptive family.